I've been in a deep & delicious hibernation. As y'all know, I love to romp around, & in order to have the energy to do that, I need a shit ton of time to myself by myself.
There's a common misconception around intro/extroversion - that being an introvert means you're shy, socially inept, & a bit of a misanthrope, while being an extrovert means you're a total ham who loves the sound of your own booming voice.
In reality, where you fall on this intro/extro continuum is not based on your social skills, it’s based on how you recharge. An introvert is energized by time alone, while an extrovert is energized by social interaction.
Many of us are energized, to some extent, by both. For the ambiverts among us (wattup fellow ENFPs 😁), understanding our energy patterns so that we can leverage full presence and efficacy can be a challenging dance that varies day to day.
The structure of your day is a factor. The nature of your work is a factor. Your living environment is a factor.The cadence of your social calendar is a factor.
I cannot emphasize enough how important it is for your love & social life that you understand your own energy patterns.
You know what it's like when you're operating on 30% & you go on a date & you're having trouble being present & you'd wayyyyyy rather be at home watching Call The Midwife. Or when you're operating on 10% & you mutate into a grumpy little baby when your partner is just asking you where the salt is (hanger, anyone?).
You also know what it's like when you're at 100% charge & you're on fucking fire & everything you say is HILARIOUS & everything you touch turns to gold & you're literally just the most charming person ever. 🔥🔥🔥 Right?!?
Your romantic magnetism & ability to connect is in direct correlation with how much your prioritize recharging & meeting your own needs.
Know thyself, is what I'm saying, my dudes. Fill thy cup. And let it runneth over. 🍺 Or something like that.
What are your energy patterns & how do you recharge?
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