Somewhere in Madrid there is a man who hates me. Somewhere in the ether, all the smoke signals, mixed messages, & lukewarm semi responses I have sent are still circulating, waiting to be deciphered. 🌎📉📈🌪
I know what it's like to take the low road in dating. I know what it's like to be weird and evasive and shitty and cowardly. And if you are a human reading this, I'm going to bet you do too.
It took realizing I myself was being a ⚡️fuckboy⚡️to understand why, in a certain era of my life, I kept attracting fuckboys.
Here's the thing: in the grande tapestry of your romantic history, there is only one common denominator. And it's you.
You choose where, and to whom, you give your precious attention. You choose how you show up, & the standards you set, & the dynamics you participate in. You choose what kind of treatment you accept.
If you continually choose to give your attention to people who do not respect you & who cannot see your value, you are not respecting yourself or seeing your own value. And you may not be fully respecting the other person or seeing their value either.
Neither of you are holding yourself to a higher standard or inviting the other person to rise to a higher standard.
What are your main complaints around dating? How are you participating in these patterns? How can you clean up your own act starting today?
No one's being proactive? Get proactive. No one's interesting? Get interested. Be interesting. Everyone ghosts? Communicate.
Yes, this will scare some people off. Let it scare them off. These people are not your people.
This will also turn some people on. Sweet glory, let it turn them on. 💦
Let 2020 be the year you choose to take no shit and give no shit.
Because no one else is going to do it for you.
Have you been a ⚡️fuck*person*⚡️before? Have you ghosted? Been irresponsible with someone's feelings? Done something shitty you regret? Own that shit so you can let it go.🙌🙌🙌
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